My daughter and I are both ill today--nothing serious, just a tummy virus, and not even a very bad one. Too bad we initially thought her illness was related to her unwise binge on Sour Patch Kids and Doritos! I'm just praying none of the persons who have been around us for the last 36 hours will catch the bug. I can't stand being a Typhoid Mary. But since my husband is not down yet, I hope that means that this virus is not highly contagious.
Still, the bug has brought our activities to a grinding halt. Now we're resting on couches in the living room, slowly adding one food at a time back into our diets. And I do mean slowly. We're up to dry cheerios and chicken broth, not simultaneously. I'm drinking Diet Mountain Dew because it's the safest bet to replace coffee when I still need my caffeine fix.
Anyway, I've had plenty of time to think about illness and writing, as we convalesce.
The lives of many famous authors include a period of childhood illness. Henry James, for example, was always sickly, unlike his more gregarious, manly brother William. His fiction is intensely introverted: exactly the kind of thing you would expect from someone who had too much time on his hands to analyze relationships because he couldn't go play with the other kids. I'm not knocking Henry James. He writes beautifully. It's just not fiction that makes me want to go out and do anything. It just makes me want to eat chicken broth and languish on a couch.
William, his brother, is perhaps the most famous philosopher America has produced. Now hold on a minute, you may be thinking. Philosophy's not exactly a red-blooded man's day at the ball park with hot dogs and good buddies. Point taken, but the thing is, William was writing for others. He wanted his work to influence his readers to think and live in new ways. So in that way, William's writing was extroverted. Henry wrote primarily from his introverted desire to produce something beautiful and please himself, and whether his work appealed to others was a distant second. I can't imagine someone reading the last page of any of Henry's works and going out to make a major life change that very day. Unless, perhaps, said reader was an American, about to marry a dissolute European aristocrat who would make her life miserable, and Henry's work opened her blind eyes to the reality of her situation. Ha!
Illness can be one event that triggers a child's observational nature. But sickness is not the only childhood catalyst that produces a writer. Sometimes, children become very observant for their own protection, if they are intelligent and they live through unsafe situations. They learn to pay close attention to the moods and characters of those around them in order to avoid unpleasant consequences.
Other times, a child's simple curiosity will cause her to become observant. Smart children learn early that other persons are not puppets in the child's world, but real, complex creatures with hidden thought lives that scroll through their skulls. If a child is naturally interested in puzzles and the unknown, she may begin to observe others closely in order to solve the mystery of their behavior. My daughter does this. A few weeks back, she said something to me along these lines: "Mom, I don't know if you've noticed this, but I'm not like a lot of other kids. When adults are talking to each other about adult stuff, I listen to what they are saying."
Yes, I had noticed that trait. :-) It makes my life more difficult occasionally, as my daughter will occasionally ask us something from her eavesdropping station in the back seat of the van, to which we must respond: "That's adult stuff and we're not going to tell you yet."
Another factor in my daughter's desire to ferret out our adult secrets may be her viewpoint as an only child. If she had a sibling, they might distract one another more. As it is, she has a powerful incentive to listen if she wants to be a part of the conversation.
So are you an observer of others? Is that much of what drives your writing process? And if so, what do you think first made you interested in others more than in your own thoughts and desires?
Monday, July 19, 2010
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I definitely write for other people more than for myself. So this was really fun to read, thank you. Also, hope you and your daughter feel better soon. :)
I write for both myself and others. If I am not happy with my work it is unlikely that I will share it. So I haveoot be my first happy reader before I send it forth. But sending it forth is the ultimate goal.
I'm an only child myself and there a lot of interesting traits that only children share in common - one for sure is more identification with adults than with other children. But I never thought how that might translate into writing - writing for yourself vs. for others. I definitely write for myself, but on the other hand, I think most of us Christian writers have a longing to share the majesty and grace of God that we've discovered with others. After discovering such a great pearl, how could we not want to share with others? But I feel more comfortable sharing through the medium of writing than other ways.
Oh, hope you feel better soon, Roslyn!! Stomach bugs are so yucky. I loved hearing your perspective on nurturing creativity in our children. I really do think it's something we have to nurture, by providing the space and silence for them. If we're so busy, or have too much noise (even with TV or video games), we may not be giving them the down time their minds need to develop that creativity!
What a BRILLIANT POST! Had never thought of that link between writers and illness!
Hmmm, I'm an OBSERVER of folks but more an observer of emotions, if that makes any sense. What molecules tinge the air during certain interactions. How do certain words make me FEEL?
Hope your daughters and you battle the nasty bug.
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It's funny you mention a link between writers and sickness... I just bought Stephen King's On Writing, and read yesterday that he spend much of first grade sick. In fact, he said that year was the year that he was "on tables." Doctor's tables.
Anyway. I am not much of an observer of others, actually. I'm fairly introverted, and I'm always over-analyzing myself and my thoughts and feelings. I think it is this that makes fiction hard for me to write; I've always simply written about myself and my own journey. So, I'm trying something new! I am determined to create new people, instead of writing just about myself and how others relate to me in my world.
Your thoughtful post raises an interesting question: do people whose lives are limited by illness of any kind (or even for other reasons) find more value in fiction that comes from "sickly," "withdrawn," or narrowly focused authors? It's possible that a woman of the James's time (limited by her gender) might find solace in the novels of Henry James, but also might see William James's philosophy as totally irrelevant to her life.
Thoughtful post. I was never sick very often as a kid, but after my brother's car accident, I spend years wondering around hospital hallways, which meant that I observed a lot of suffering. I have no doubt that this was a catalyst in much of my introspective behavior.
You ask good questions. Who do I write for? What purpose do I have in writing? I know that I hope to share with others some of the ways that God has been working on me. We are all a work in progress - to be sure.
My oldest daughter was an only child for 8 years, and she has always connected with adults, even as a small child, very well. As a teenager, she still does! My younger two kids, who are very close in age, spend much more time playing with each other.
Thanks for the comments on the VBS post. Neat word verification!
Hope you all get to feeling better.
At Bible Camp right now, taking a break in the local library.
I hope you're feeling better!
This is an interesting post. I always figured it was the isolation from others that contributed to the creativity of some people.
If a sick child's parents constantly isolate him/her for protection, that child may not be confident in the social skills they hone. They would then feel uncomfortable in certain social circles and hang back to observe instead of joining in the conversation.
Just a thought.
Lainie - I had forgotten about Stephen King, until you mentioned him. And I'm glad you're trying fiction! You clearly have a talent for it, so I'm looking forward to seeing what you do.
Kathryn - Excellent point! I can always count on you to make one. It seems true to me, with the one caveat that I always feel as if I'm seeing James's women from the outside. I can totally tell that James is not a woman, even though his characterizations are great. So the way a woman might find solace in James is by having outside confirmation of her experience, rather than an identification with the heroine as in Wharton.
D.J. - Sometimes it's the simplest statements that bring me to know someone in a deeper way and root for her from then on. What you said here about your brother's accident and hospitals is one of those moments. I'm sure that experience has made you both observant and compassionate.
Kat - Another great point. And we see that even with children who aren't ill, if their parents are anti-social.
Thanks for your comments, everybody! I always enjoy reading every single one. And I'm glad to have your company and insight.
It's what I do--observe others. I guess being in psychology helps with that but it also helps me to understand myself--by listening and watching. My daughter is an only child and she was that same way growing up--we were the people she needed to interact with.
Sorry you feel poorly. Sometimes, though, forced rest is good for us. Hope you are feeling better soon.
While I am here, I would like to let you and other followers of the Blest Atheist blog know that BA went down. I replaced it with 100th Lamb (www.emahlou.blogspot.com). I explain why there.
This is interesting. As a child there wasn't a whole lot to keep me entertained so people watching became a sport for me. Feel better!!!! Hopefully you're already better and back to enjoying your summer.
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